Role of a parent lasts a lifetime

There are three questions that every man and woman considering having a child should answer. They are the questions that friends of ours were asked by a judge when they appeared in court to finalize their adoption.

They stood with their beautiful baby girl with the dark hair and dancing eyes as the judge solemnly asked, “Do you wish to adopt this baby and do you understand that it will be forever?”

In many ways, forming a family through adoption has a profound element of nobility because it is so intensely purposeful and intentional. Prospective parents wait, yearn, hope, pursue leads, wait more, shell out vast amounts of money and incur incredible debt for the privilege of parenting. They are positively gleeful when a little bundle turns their lives upside down.

They have ached and waited for a job that, as the judge said, is forever. Being a mother or father lasts far beyond the adorable little baby stage and the toddler stage. You can’t walk away from the job when you lose interest, life becomes difficult, more exciting things call to you, or the child becomes a lot to handle.

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